THEORIES ON LOVE I

This is a very confusing topic, since we were all taught that there are different kinds of love. If you can't keep an open mind on this topic, don't continue reading.

Background

Types of love
Agape - the term was used by the early Christians (Greek to be specific, as the word is of Greek origin) to refer to the special love for God and God's love for humanity
Courtly love – a late medieval conventionalized code prescribing certain conduct and emotions for ladies and their lovers Erotic love (eros) – affection characterized by sexual desires
Familial love – affection brokered through kinship connections, intertwined with concepts of attachment and bonding Free love – sexual relations according to choice and unrestricted by Marraige Phillia - used in the New Testament, philia is a human response to something that is found to be delightful. Also known as "brotherly love"
Platonic love – a close relationship in which sexual desire is non-existent or has been suppressed or sublimated
Puppy love – romantic affection that is not "mature" or not "true." The term is often used with negative connotations, insinuating that love between youngsters is less genuine or valuable
Religious love – devotion to one's deity or theology
Romantic love – affection characterized by a mix of emotional intimacy and sexual desire
True love – love without condition, motive or attachment. Loving someone just because they are themselves, not their actions or beliefs in particular. Also referred to as unconditional love.
Unrequited love – affection and desire not reciprocated or returned
Lust-love - affection characterized by lust, caring about the desired one for a short amount of time, in other words, semi-true love
Instantaneous love - Love that occurs the instant that one person comes in contact with another and feels a deep connection or attraction to the other. Also known as "love at first sight" and referred to commonly in many fairy tales and folk lore and literature.
Sacrificial love - the act of sacrificing one's life, or something of great importance, solely on the basis of love.

Love According to the Bible

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary

The English word "love" is derived more immediately from Old English lufu, luvu, or lubu, which derived from luba of Old High German. The luba of Old High German derived from leubh, lubet, and libet of Sanskrit and Old Aryan, meaning “pleasing.”
To love is to please... but up to what extent?

Theory

Love first came from the doctrines of Yahweh, the God of Love. Through history the concept of love was defiled and perverted, which then lead it to branch out to different categories by the razionalization of futile yet intense minds. Despite popular misconception, love is not a mere uncontrollable emotion of some helpless victim. Love is the willingness of a person to endure or to undergo shit-loads of crap to make the recipient happy or as said above, "pleased". Love is a choice that can only be made by mature adults. One more thing that's hard to digest is that Love has no types. There is only one love that trully exists in this world we live in.

Think about this. Every word has their own respective antonym, yet love has only one-- hate. Was hate ever categorized?

We do not love our lover, just because we can't help but think of the person night and day. We do not love our parents just because they brought us into this world. (We owe them nothing, it was never our choice to be brought into this world, but they are obligated to nourish and clothe us.) No one is forced to love somebody. We need to like a person in order to love him/her.

Definition of terms

If we miss somebody, this is not love. This is longing.
If we smile every time a person does something, this is not love. This is fondness.
If we want to get in bed with a person, this is not love. This is lust.
If we think about the person day and night, this is not love. This is obsession.
If we cannot leave a person despite he/she hurts you, this is not love. This is martyrdom.
If we follow the rules of our parents, this is not love. This is obedience. If we obey our parents because we don't want punishment, this is not love. This is fear.
If we feel goose-bumps every time a certain person is around, this is not love. This is infatuation.
If we like certain attributes of a person, this is not love. This is attraction.

To be continued...